Fear is a Gift: Embrace It

I’m sure you’re wondering what on earth I mean by saying fear is something to be embraced.

We’re all familiar with the typical experience of fear. It tends to creep in when we’re in situations like doing an important job interview, a big presentation, or before we do something wild like sky-diving or bungee-jumping.

Our hearts start beating like crazy.

Our hands begin to shake and sweat.

Our knees start to feel weak.

We may even get tongue-tied.

It can be pretty uncomfortable.

So how exactly IS fear a gift?

I invite you to take a moment and contemplate this perspective with me.

When we experience fear, it means that we’re stepping into something new. Something we’ve never done before, nor experienced. Fear relays the fact that we’re about to take on an opportunity that is real. An opportunity that means something to us. An opportunity that is opening space for change.

Change is scary. There’s no doubt about it. The truth, though, is that it doesn’t have to be.

We experience fear when life is calling on us to expand, stretch, and grow. These big opportunities require us to do so. They force us to get out of our comfort zone and into the zone of fully living as we are meant to. Otherwise, all of the life experiences we go through wouldn’t affect us one bit. Why? Because it’s easy, and easy doesn’t require us to do much at all. It’s complacency at it’s best.

Looking at it from this perspective, then, I wonder if we could shift our perspective and start to both welcome fear and trust that it’s confirmation that we are on the right path. We can choose to start to view fear as a compass, knowing that it’s pointing us in the exact and perfect direction we need to be heading in order to become even more expansive and whole human beings.

AND – the amazing thing that happens when we begin to see fear as a welcome ally instead of an enemy, is that we start to welcome even MORE opportunities that we wouldn’t have ever dared to originally. We become incredibly fearless and courageous, open to whatever life has to offer us because we recognize that each and every experience, scary or not, is an opportunity for growth.

“We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which
we really stop to look fear in the face… we must do that which we think we cannot.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

So, when you start to feel fear, I invite you to:

  1. Be willing to move through it.
  2. See it for what it truly is.
  3. Do it anyway.

Fear exists and was designed to be used for protection and survival. We needed it when we were spending our days hunting wild animals or on constant lookout from attacks by neighboring tribes. It served, and still serves, a critical purpose. Today, the key idea is not to get rid of it completely, but to learn how to be aware of where the fear is coming from, discern reality vs the risk, and embrace what the fear is trying to show us. Fear informs us and offers an opportunity to understand what is important to us. It sheds light on our values, and acts as a compass, giving us direction and clarity. It also encourages us to step forward into life, bringing with us our strengths, so we can fully rise forth in our inherent power, slay our dragons, and gallantly walk away with a deep sense of dignity, growth, and fulfillment.

When fear rises up to meet you, embrace it.

Aside from love, it’s truly the most transformative gift that we could ever be given.

xo

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30 thoughts on “Fear is a Gift: Embrace It

  1. I think many of us have spent our lives so afraid of fear of any sort (talking about myself here), that we have actually lost touch with it.

    I never considered myself a fearful person, until recently. It has recently been revealed to me that my ENTIRE LIFE has been shaped by fear. Running, avoiding, hiding… only recently, looking at things more clearly have i seen the truth of it.

    I’ve realized that I didn’t stop to check in with myself, to see what was fear of a thing, and what was fear of the story I’ve told myself about the thing… if it looked and felt like fear, I just ran the other way.

    Great post! Food for thought posts are always a win in my book!

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    1. I totally relate, Amanda! And I love that you brought up such a brilliant point – checking in with “the story [you’ve] told [yourself] about the thing” that’s inducing fear. We tell ourselves so many stories that 9 times out of 10 are not remotely close to reality! So glad you’ve come to a realization surrounding this. 🙂 Thank you for reading and sharing these thoughts!

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      1. Thanks, Kayla!
        Realizing how much of what I thought was ‘reality’ was really just stories I’d told myself about how someone feels about me, or what they meant when they said X… changing the story I tell myself is the way I raise my vibration (and I’ve realized that some people get REALLY touchy when you start rewriting stories, even when the rewrite means they will feel better… ESPECIALLY when it will make them feel better. Some people just prefer to be negative!)

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  2. “Come to the edge,” he said.
    “We can’t, we’re afraid!” they responded.
    “Come to the edge,” he said.
    “We can’t, We will fall!” they responded.
    “Come to the edge,” he said.
    And so they came.
    And he pushed them.
    And they flew.”

    ― Guillaume Apollinaire

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      1. Welcome Alalyak I am feeling so happy Igbo now and can I tell u a secret will tell u today and that is my Lord makes me write these beautiful stories where he wants me to inspire and make people happy cause this is his beautiful world and we are all his wonderful children. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

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  3. Beautifully written! Fear in itself can paralyze us at times but it is in understanding and assessing where and why we feel the way we do can we truly overcome, learn and grow from the experiences. Pushing through in spite of my fears has gotten me where I am today. Thank you for this reminder!

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing! I’m glad you liked it. I’m currently on a social media break (WordPress/Instagram are the exceptions! Lol) until the end of this month, so I will definitely do so when I’m back on! Looking forward to reading more from you.

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