Today is a short post. I’d like to talk a little bit about our filters.
Whether they’re externally placed or internally held, we all have filters that are largely based on our perceptions, beliefs, experiences, and what we’ve been told throughout our lives. These filters no doubt shape the way we choose to act and express ourselves in the world.
Many of them tend to come from a place of fear. We hold them in our psyche as a way to protect ourselves from what scares us – fear of loss, fear of pain, fear of embarrassment or judgment, you name it. After awhile they become hard-grained habits that end up limiting the totality of who we are and our expression of our authenticity. We are mislead in thinking that they make our experience easier, but in all reality, it makes it much more difficult. We end up completely disconnected from ourselves with a life that keeps us small and timid.
I’m sure we’ve all had situations in which we felt that we couldn’t do this or say that because it’s not “normal” or because we may be rejected, ridiculed, or out-casted. Maybe it’s not even because of others, but because we’re judging ourselves. It’s definitely an uncomfortable experience. We want to show up as authentic and honest as we can but because of these filters, we shy away, avoid, and hide our truth. Not only are we being dishonest to others in doing so, we’re also being dishonest to ourselves as well.
The thing about this is that every single one of us has the ability to lovingly express ourselves and our truth to others. When we’re fully living in our truest expression, there is no room for judgment or fear, inside or out, because we know that we’re being 100% real. There’s a certain kind of freedom and security – yes, a paradox! – which manifests when we allow ourselves to express ourselves in the most authentic way possible. Not only do we feel more courageous, more happy, and more honest – others around us will pick up on this and reflect it back. Relationships which are founded in full honesty and authenticity? Yes, please!
So today, I wonder:
If you truly had no filter, how would you introduce yourself to the world? How would you show up and act?
I invite you to let me know in the comments below! 🙂